White allies, stop asking me if I’m OK. Black people are not OK

I have had enough of this performative bullshit from “allies” issuing statements of support. And I have had enough of the white “allies” who know me sending me flurries of emails checking in and texts with heart emojis and “thinking of you” messages to see if I’m OK, and then asking me to tell them how to be anti-racist in the same breath: “Can you lead a discussion on racism or help me talk to the Black people I know? And what books should I be reading right now?” Do your own self-work,…